A Private, Judgement-Free Reflection
How Is Your
Relationship, Really?
Some relationships leave you feeling confused, anxious or not quite yourself, and it can be hard to say why.
Think about the relationship you have in mind, now or in the past, and for each area answer one question: how often does this happen? A means never, F means always. There are no right answers, only your experience.
Tap a grade to see what it means. You can change your answer before moving on.
Your safety matters. If someone checks your phone or computer, the Leave this page button takes you straight to the BBC weather. If you're looking at your own behaviour rather than a partner's, the Relationship Patterns scorecard is the better fit.
This assessment is for reflection purposes only. It is not a clinical diagnosis of you or anyone else.
Your Results
You said you're sometimes afraid of your partner.
You don't have to handle that alone, and you deserve to feel safe.
National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247, free and open 24 hours.
Men's Advice Line: 0808 801 0327, weekdays 10am to 5pm.
If you are in danger right now, call 999.
Areas that may need the most attention
If anything here has stirred up a lot, support is here.
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Enter your details below and we will send you your results by email. Your result and the areas that came up most will be in that email, so please use an address that only you can read.
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Looking honestly at what is happening in a relationship takes courage, especially when part of you is still hoping it will change.
Your experience is real. You don't have to work this out alone.
If you would like to talk through your results with us, your first 30 minutes is free.
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