Attachment theory tells us that the way we learned to connect with our earliest caregivers becomes the template for every close relationship that follows. Our patterns of trust, intimacy, conflict, and distance in adult relationships are rarely random — they were learned early, and they run deep.
This scorecard explores your attachment patterns — not to label you, but to give you a clearer map of how you show up in relationships, and why.
Take your time with each grade: when you select a score, a short description will appear beneath the buttons. We recommend reading it before moving on — it offers a little context for what that grade reflects, and may help you feel confident that your answer truly fits your experience.
Before selecting your grade: take a moment to read all six descriptions — then choose the one that fits your experience most honestly.
A note on this assessment: attachment patterns exist on a spectrum and can shift across relationships and over time. Answer based on your general experience in close relationships — romantic, friendship, or family.
This assessment is for reflection purposes only. It is not a clinical diagnosis.